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\"You<\/p>\n

By Bunmi Sofola<\/strong><\/p>\n

Someone once dubbed Lagos the adultery capital of the world.\u00a0 A bit unfair judging by the frantic global bed-hoppingsthat go on all over the place.\u00a0 But it does not mean that adultery is no longer the shocker it used to be.\u00a0 So can you forgive a straying partner?\u00a0 Joy, a top executive in the marketing department of a manufacturing company, said she\u2019d invested so much into her relationship over eight years to let a little thing like adultery destroy it.\u00a0 \u201cCall it the seven-year itch\u201d, said Joy, \u201cbut we\u2019d been living together for that long when Afe, my partner\u2019s affection, began sliding.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt was the little things that stopped first, like his afternoon phone calls saying he was thinking of me.\u00a0 He started going out more with his male friends, but as they were mine too, I trusted them to keep him in line.\u00a0 Then he started going out to work functions but when I asked why, we\u2019d end up arguing and he would charge out of the house, then, this fateful day, I\u2019d been away for an advert shooting for my company for a couple of day and when I returned home, the photographs of us that sat on top of the television had gone.<\/p>\n

\u201cAfe said he thought I\u2019d taken it with me, but it turned up two days later back on the television set.\u00a0 Afe said he\u2019d forgotten he\u2019d taken it to the office to show someone.\u00a0 But I know most of his work colleagues, so why bother to take in a picture of us?\u00a0 A few weeks later, he forgot his cheque book at home and I was concerned at the amount of money he\u2019d been withdrawing.\u00a0 I went to his office to confront him.\u00a0 It was a few weeks to Christmas and I read the cards on his desk while waiting for him.\u00a0 One read:\u00a0 \u201cDarling, sorry we won\u2019t be spending Christmas together but you\u2019ll be in my thoughts all day.\u00a0 Wish you could be here with me.\u00a0 All my love, you cuddly teddy bear\u201d.<\/p>\n

When I threw the card in Afe\u2019s face, he had the grace to look shame-faced.\u00a0 The girl in question turned out to be a colleague, but it had been going on for months\u00a0 He said on the few occasions I\u2019d gone out of town on advert shoots, he\u2019d felt neglected and this girl had offered a shoulder to cry on.\u00a0 Without letting him know, I met up with this girl and she confessed she\u2019d been to the flat.\u00a0 She also said Afe had made it clear she was only a fling and she was having none of that.<\/p>\n

\u201cMy self confidence really took a nose-dive and I even thought of calling off the whole thing.\u00a0 But I loved Afe \u2013 we had lasted seven years \u2013 longer than many marriages and I wasn\u2019t prepared to throw it all away.\u00a0 Another Christmas is around the corner, there are days when I wonder what he gets up to at work and the women he socializes with, but I know he wouldn\u2019t jeopardise my love.\u00a0 Come Christmas, I\u2019m expecting him to make up for the heartache he caused me last year \u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

Florence\u2019s partner cheated on her with an ex-girlfriend.\u00a0 \u201cI knew Bobson saw his girlfriend from time to time\u201d, said Florence.\u00a0 \u201cThey had been together for some five years and had mutual friends before they decided to go their separate ways.\u00a0 But it never worried me because he always joked about her behind her back, so I assumed there was just a lot of ill feelings between them.\u00a0 Bobson was two years younger than me, but I tended to attract younger men, when we were introduced through mutual friends at a dinner party, we clicked right away.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe didn\u2019t actually live together, but we stayed with each other five nights a week and I believed he didn\u2019t need anyone else.\u00a0 He was always generous and affectionate and we had a healthy sex life.\u00a0 He was fairly successful car dealer, so I know how charming he could be and that other women found him attractive, but never had reason to doubt him.\u00a0 So I\u2019ll never forget the shock of the discovery that he was cheating.\u00a0 We had a lot of drink after a lovely meal at his flat and were having a cuddle when he whispered, I have that liquor you liked so much in the bedroom.\u00a0 We could have that upstairs if you like \u2013 like the last time.\u00a0 Reality hit me, whoever he\u2019d enjoyed the liquor with, it certainly hadn\u2019t been with me.\u00a0 He tried to bluff his way out of it but when I had a go at hi, he admitted he had been seeing his ex-girlfriend for months now.\u00a0 The jokes had used to crack about her had been a cover-up.\u00a0 He said he still loved her and he never had the strength to turn her away.\u00a0 I realized how conceited and weak he was.\u00a0 I was convinced I didn\u2019t do anything to push him into having an affair.\u00a0 But it didn\u2019t matter how great our relationship was \u2013 one woman was never going to keep him happy.<\/p>\n

He begged me for another chance and I tried to make a go of it, but the trust had gone.\u00a0 I knew I had to start all over again with someone else.\u00a0 I would only have myself to blame if I married him knowing he was a cheat.<\/p>\n

Immaculate Conception (Humour)<\/p>\n

A mother took her daughter to the doctor\u2019s.\u00a0 \u201cShe\u2019s been having strtange symptoms\u201d, said the mother.\u00a0 The doctor examined the daughter carefully.\u00a0 Then he announced.\u00a0 \u201cMadam, I believe your daughter\u2019s pregnant\u201d.<\/p>\n

\u201cThat\u2019s impossible\u201d, the mother gasped.\u00a0 \u201cWhy, my little girl has nothing whatsoever to do with men, do you darling?\u00a0 No, mummy, I\u2019ve never so much as kissed a man\u201d.\u00a0 The doctor then looked from mother to daughter.\u00a0 Then he walked to the window and stood there, staring out.\u00a0 Finally, the mother asked: \u201cDoctor, something wrong?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cNo\u201d, he replied.\u00a0 \u201cIt\u2019s just that the last time anything like this happened, a star appeared in the East, so I was looking to see if there was another one\u201d.<\/p>\n

Mind Your Language (Humour)<\/p>\n

A virile young Italian soldier is relaxing in his favourite bar in Rome, when he attracts a gorgeous, young blonde.\u00a0 They go back to his apartment and make love.\u00a0 Afterwards, the soldier says with a smile,\u201d you finish?\u201d\u00a0 She frown and replies: \u201cNo.\u00a0 Surprised, the young man reaches for the beautiful girl \u2026 and the love making resumes.\u00a0 She seems to enjoy herself.\u00a0 As the love making ends, the solder asks smugly:\u00a0 \u201cThis time, you finish?\u201d<\/p>\n

She returns his smile and whispers contentedly: \u201cNo\u201d.\u00a0 Puzzled out determined, he reached for her again.\u00a0 They make love once again until the exhausted man falls back, gasping.\u00a0 Barely able to turn his head, he asks: \u201cSo you finish?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cNo!\u201d\u00a0 She shouts back.\u00a0 \u201cStop asking I now finish.\u00a0 I sweedish\u201d.<\/p>\n

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